BBM and Friendship

Before I start I just wanna send a shout out to you all who read my last post..it feels really good knowing I am not writing for myself alone and that there are people who actually read and love what I write..big ups guys..
Am gonna be talking about BBM and the new era of friendship which we live in..I know most of us already have an idea of how BBM affects our friendship nowadays but I just wanna shed some more light on it and also hear from your comments what you think..
OK I bought my blackberry last year december and I was excited bout it wanted to talk to everybody and even when I had nothing to say my fingers just itches to ping.then I started to realize that people weren't as enthusiastic as I was.I wondered how come cz these were people I talked to on a daily basis.these were guys I rolled with and girls I flirted with.it was a lil bit absurd when I sent PING and dey don't answer or at best give a lukewarm response.it took me a while to finally figure out that friendship in real life and friendship on BBM are two different things.so different that if we do not understand the art of BBMship we would think no one wants to talk to us not knowing that its just a culture among people not to talk to people they are not really close to in real life on BBM
You see I have lots of friends..or at least I think they are friends..wen I see den pass by I holla at them wen we meet in bank queues we talk and when we meet in the restaurant we talk and sometimes we chat in class.but I realize some of these friendships are meant to stay there.they do not transcend physical communication and its sort of a a taboo to bring them to the realm of BBM..I realized this when my good friend I used to talk to face to face started ignoring me on BBM.I mean we were quite close but just cz I said she 'gbagauned'
She literary ignored me for close to two months.something she wouldn't have done if it was a face to face conversation..then after that I realized some people aren't meant to be talked to on BBM.when you see then on the street you could say hi and engage in the typical chit chat but don not ever make the mistake that you can bring that chit chat to BBM cz most people possess a very funny ego wen pinging..I don't understand how it happens but am sure some of us has experienced what am talking about..I mean you send someone a request and wanna chat with the person but after the typical how far how are you, you realize that conversation well has dried up already then that awkward moment when you guys ask each other-do you have anything else to say-its really awkward..
I have 106 contacts but I actively engage only close to 10 in meaningful conversation via pinging..I wouldn't say the others are not my friends, I would just say I am not special enough or maybe they are not special enough or maybe we both don't see each other special enough to engage each other in periodic pinging..Some don't ping you until they are bored,maybe their best friend BIS has expired ant they are bored and need someone to talk to.that is the moment they remember you and they ping you saying "wassup dear" and in your blissful and wonderful ignorance you think they really wanna engage you in a conversation not knowing they are just using you to pass the time.hmmm.God save us all.I must admit I am guilty of this act too..but in my defence I don't do it too often..I hope..
So what am I trying to say.well what am saying is that know your place on your friend's BBM contact list.the fact that they smile and hug you doesn't mean they would show such civility on the phone.people become different and changed on BBM.I have had close friends..and I mean really close friends delete me cz of a lil argument..you know what that made me realize?that this wonderful gadget of ours might create an illusion that we all are in one mobile community but in actual fact we are so far away from eactother.don't be deceived by the tweets and facebook ish.if they can't tweet at u real life den don't be flattered by their tweets on twitter..feel me??
I am not saying there aren't good and real friend on our BBM..no far from that all am saying is that we shouldn't think that the way we talk to people face to face is how we would talk to them on our mobile messenger..its a totally different world and requires total different skill..that's why someone would say LOL or LWKMD or LWTMB when in actual fact they are like "yeah yeah whatever"
So guys do not feel bad when that person you like talking to so much doenst really talk to you on ur BBM.its just the way it is and I guess it makes us know who our real friends are and next time before sending that red PING text.think of what you really what to say cuz not everyone delights in idle talk when pinging..
I hope I have been able to make a lil bit of sense concerning this matter..so my word for today??its THINK before you PING!!and till we meet again guys..this is the life and times of badmuz ray karter.peace out!!!!!!